When Behavior Changes, What Can We Say?
An observable change can matter in its own right For months, a person accepts almost every additional task their team asks them to take on, even when they already have enough work. In one…
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Understanding a Problem Does Not by Itself Define What to Work On in Therapy
Understanding can clarify a great deal and still leave something open A person may come to understand a problem quite well and still not be clear about which question deserves attention next. They may…
Read article →Knowing an Option Does Not Mean Being Able to Carry It Out
Knowing that a way out exists does not yet tell us whether it is available A person has been thinking about leaving their job for months. They can explain why that possibility matters to…
Read article →Being in the Same Situation Does Not Mean Having the Same Responsibility
A shared situation does not make all actions shared Two people maintain an everyday agreement. One of them needs to change it and raises the issue. The other listens and responds. The first action…
Read article →The Same Behavior Can Serve Different Functions
Seeing the same thing is not understanding the same thing Three people remain silent during a difficult conversation. One is trying to organize what they want to say before responding. Another knows that speaking…
Read article →Understanding Is Not Always Enough to Change
I understand it, and yet it keeps happening Sometimes a person can explain with considerable clarity where a response they keep repeating comes from. They know when they began to recognize it, remember experiences…
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